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Xander Kia

Just a short note to bring my post up to date.
I have moved to NC to be close to my Son and his family and my Daughter followed with her family. We are all blessed to be in the same state AND the same city once again.
This enables us to do what families do, support one another, through good and bad times. It has been primarily good, Hamdulilla.
Sweet Xander is a trooper and doing so well. God is Great!

This is from a short stay, he is doing well and growing physically and in his adorable personality too.



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  • To all of my friends and family,

    For the past nine (9) days, Holli Valentin and I have been going through a very difficult time that we have, for the most part, kept to ourselves out of respect for certain individuals. However, we feel that we are finally ready to let everyone know what is going on, in part from our need for a strong circle of support in this difficult time and part from a realization that this can only be kept quiet for so long and, rather than let the rumor mill continue, we’d rather be the ones to come out with this.

    On Thursday, September 27th, my son, Xander Kai Valentin, was admitted to the Pediatric unit at Mission Hospital and the next day, Friday, September 28th, Xander was diagnosed with Childhood Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. He has spent every day since the 27th in the hospital and will most likely be there for another two or three months until his white blood cell count is high enough to once again ward off any minor infection he may receive, at which time he will be released from the hospital, but will need to be under close supervision. Xander underwent minor invasive surgery to have a medical port implanted just below the epidermis and muscle tissues of his left pectoral/armpit area and began receiving Chemotherapy treatment on Tuesday, October 2nd. His treatment will span the next 2-3 years until he is in remission. So far, Xander has been a beast and has handled his Chemotherapy like a champ, although we understand that there is a long road ahead of all of us which to travel and this is only the beginning.

    We would like to ask for all of the support, well-wishes, prayers and positive energy that you can send to Xander, Holli and I, Jude and Chenoa during this difficult time and give a personal ‘thank you’ to everyone who has been there for us, including but not limited to, Erica Valentin Frith, Kathleen Elders Valentin, Jeremy Boyd James Enright, Julie Tallman Pat and Joel Maurer, Michael Maurer, Chenoa Shannon, Dee Shwartz-Shannon, Michael Shannon, Mineko Shannon, Dr. Beatty, Nurses Amy, Chris and Will, and the entire Pediatric Staff at Mission Hospital for all of your love and support; we could not be as strong as we have been without each and every one of you.

    As disappointing as it is, I feel I also need to say this: to any of my “friends” who are going to feel the need to tell anyone that I have shared this status on Facebook, please make sure to mention ALL of the people who are sending us, as Xander’s family, and Xander himself, their love, support, prayers and well-wishes during this time. This is not a cry for pity, but a a request for all of the support that we may ALL receive during and through all of this and anyone who believes or expresses otherwise should go ahead and remove me from their friends list.

    For more information about Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia (ALL), please visit For more information about medical ports, how they work, and the benefits of having a medical port implanted, please visit

    I will be posting pictures and updates from now on to let everyone know how Xander and we are all doing. Again, thank you all for your love and support; we appreciate it more than we could ever express in words.


    Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia (ALL)

    ALL is the most common type of leukemia, affecting nearly 60% of kids who have this cancer of the blood cells. With treatment, most recover.

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